Hello Gentleman I will be your guide in this "How to get GF ultimate guide." guide. I am very happy to be here and thank you for beeing interested.

First off my name is Pierre and I wrote this guide for people who are struggling with finding a GF because beeing lonely is whack. And not just in the modern sense but also in the early 18th century meaning of the word, ain't tis?
This guide will (hopefully) help all of you to learn how to find a GF but what is a "GF" anyway? Its short for girlfriend ofc. A female who has romantic interest in you. And yes, for a female to qualify as a GF, it has to be a two sided and consentual thing, Im sorry but cavemaning it wont do here.

Now that we are all clear on what a GF is, lets proceed with the guide, shall we?

For this beeing the ultimate guide its only logical that its interactive so before we start you'll need a rating of your looks wich can be aquired by the mostly reasonable people over here on reddit:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Rateme/

You can ofc also look in the mirror and try to rate yourself but very much like your smell it can only really be judged by other people so Id advice to make a Reddit Acc if you dont already own one it should be easy enough.

If you dont want to make a reddit acc or publish a picture of you then just proceed with the next chapter. I put together a small calculator for your own rating.

IF YOU CHOOSE TO GET A RATING FROM REDDIT YOU MAY SKIP THE FOLLOWING "RATING CALCULATOR" CHAPTER.

Look into the mirror and try to judge yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, 1 beeing the least attractive to 10 beeing the most. If you are done look at the calculator down below and hover over the spoiler text next to the rating you gave yourself, its easy:

1: Add 2-3 points to your own rating. People that give themselfs a low rating like that rarely are preceived as ugly as they think they are so I would advice to take the Reddit rating
2-4: Rule of thumb add 2-3 points to your own rating. People who choose this are heavily lacking on confidence or they already get told that they are a 4 at best if so, dont add points.
5-6: This is pretty average, add 2. This is the most common attractiveness people give themselfs "objectively" while its true for alot about half the people are more attractive then they realise and would in most cases be solid eights if they would muster up enough confidence
7-8: Dont add nor take points. Most people with this rating know they are attractive but not too attractive.
9: Substract 3-4 points. People who say "Im almost perfect" arent, ever. You are mediocre at best.
10: Substract 8-9 points. If you think you are a ten you probably have lots of people telling you this, they lied. Id advice to take the Reddit rating and brace yourself for some truth.

Now you may continue on the corresponding chapter for your calculated rating. You find the chapter selection on your right side of this guide.

Bro, u ugly.
Lets face it you wont likely find a GF outside of the Internet but its not impossible.

There are lots of chatrooms for people like you just be aware that the possibility of you beeing catfished is pretty high.

So the only real solution is to learn how to be confident it will easily add 2 points of attractiveness also having humor doesnt hurt.
You can always give Tinder and similar apps a try but I wouldnt bet on that working out.

Alternatively you could always snuggle struggle or become a Buddhist, end "the run" and hope for better RNG next time around. Not saying you should, obviously just listing options.

Bro, you need some work done stat.
Okay this is a rating we can definitely work with but its gonna take alot!

Check if those things are in order:

• Clothing
  
• Self Care
  
• Hair
  
• Smell
  
• Confidence
  
• Behavior
  
• Physique

If you dont care about clothing much thats okay but you need to take care of yourself and that includes dressing like an adult.

Some things you should consider:

• Dont wear clothes that are too big or too small.
  Nothing is worse then cloths that dont fit dont be shy to buy clothes that fit you.
  Workers in clothing shops are always happy to help you figure out what size fits you best dont be shy to ask!
  
  
• Avoid T-Shirts with generic Band pictures and names on them if you go outside.
  Of course its okay to wear them when you are at home, if you work out or if you are going to a bar that plays songs of the band or its genre.
  
  
• Get your shoe game on. Buy shoes that fit every need not just one type for all.
  For example if you are going out at a restaurant its not gonna end well if you wear your dirty worn out boots.
  Buy normal shoes you can wear for casual occasions and shoes for more elegant situations.
  
  
• Buy a business shirt. Preferably dark grey, black, light blue or Burgundy.
  If you manage to get a girl to agree to have diner with you, you will want to impress her and seem like a reliable person.
  Please dont wear a blazer or dress pants with it. A nice jeans with a business shirt will do just fine.
  
  
• Wash it regularly. The old "I just wore it for a few hours and it still smells good" throwing it in the corner to wear next time doesnt cut it. You never know how you smell to other people as you are used to it and you dont see dirty spots if its on your back side. Just wash them it wont kill you.

Yes there are some that just have spots, acne or other skin problems most of the time you can do something about it there are oitments or treatment possibilities if its a condition thats not treatable you have to accept it and be open about it. Some things cant be changed only accepted.

Also be sure to:

• Brush your teeth regularly
  This is self explanatory but I came to know people whi didnt brush and let me tell you this is not the way to go.
  If you want to go the extra mile, floss and brush your teeth twice a day.
  Also go to your dentist regularly. Its their job to make your teeth better again dont be shy to ask they will provide help and advice.
  
  
• Already mentioned but its important. Wash your clothes regularly. Every 3 days will do if you are sweating or if its hot oustide either wash it more often or leave it in the laundry bag and change your clothes regularly.
  
  
• Beards. Only very few men dont want to have one yet only very few can grow a good looking one in their younger years.
  Its all genetics its true that some are just unluky but the truth is everyone grows in a beard at a different speed. For some they have full beards with 15, some have full but spotty beard in their 20 and some only grow a beard in their early or even late 50s.
  If you cant grow a beard accept it and move on, no girl will like your spotty few haires on your chin.
  
  
• In a perfect world I wouldnt have to mention this but.. well you know. Eyebrows. Especially mono brows. Pick them with a tweezer not just the mono hair but also tidy up around your eyebrows a bit, pull out the stragglers but be careful to not take away too much as this wont look good either.
  
  
• SHOWERING. Its important. Do it every second day thats the golden rule if you are working or in the summer you may shower every day but I would suggest to only wash your hair every second day without going too much into it your hair will damage if you wash it with shampoo too much.
  And yes use shampoo, theres very handy hair and body shapoo out there for us lazy sons of' so make use of those.
  
  
• Fingernails and Toenails.
  The toenails you should cut maybe once a week depending on how fast they grow. For your fingernails its different for everyone just keep them tidy. If you master the biting technique you may do it that way but otherwise use a scissor and file.
  
  
• Maybe wash your hands and face a few times a day. After a few days you will start doing it naturally. While its not necessary it doesnt hurt to do.

There are certain types of personalities and faces that go very well with medium long or long hair but generally you will want to keep it nice and short, just try it. Ask your barber to trimm your sides on 1/8 inch and to keep the top 1,5 inches while having a nice smooth transition. Optionally you can ask your barber to apply some styling gel afterwards it always looks nice.

You should wash it regularly (as mentioned above best to do every second day) and apply products please dont be the person who doesnt want to use shampoo.


As already mentioned, smell is tricky just keep in mind that you wont realise how bad you smell, others will. Wash yourself every two days with body wash or the hair and body shampoo, thoroughly. You dont have to shave your armpithair much but if you keep it too long it will start to catch sweat drops and smell. Why dont you trim it everytime you take a shower it doesnt take long and it will help you.

Dont be shy to use body perfume for your armpits dose it accordingly and test how much you need so it lasts your whole day. Just dont overdo it.

Be mindful of your breath. Some people have a harder time to have it under control just use mouth wash regularly, floss and vrush your teeth twice a day if you have trouble with it. If its real bad you might have a rotten tooth you should get fixed by your dentist.

Good tip is to always carry a strong chewing gum for urgent situations like AirWaves not cherry or some children chewing gum it should be one that really helps. And may god have mercy on your soul if I find out you are chewing with your mouth open I will personally find you and kick your teeth in. DONT. DO. THAT.

Additionally if you are a smoker wash your hands with soap regularly and avoid smoking indoors or in cars as your clothing will soak in the cigarette smell wich is unpleasant for most.


If this is a problem for you there are many many ways to help you with it. I will list some but you can also ask people you trust for advice.

• Read books about it.
  While its not for everyone, myself included, reading can teach you alot about certain things and you are reading this guide right now so you proven your capabilities and will to learn so Id say go for it!
  
  
• Make decisions for yourself and stand by them.
  Dont try to fit in too much just go your own way and own it.
  
  
• Understand that you are the only person that can decide if you accept yourself or not.
  This means be aware of your flaws, try to change them and if you cant accept, dont hide them.
  
  
• Know what you want.
  This probably is the most important thing if you want to be confident. Know who you are what you can get and what you want to get.
  Nothing radiates confidence more then a man who knows exactly what he wants and wont back down.
  
  
• Have dignity.
  Dont let people push you around. Even if a girl is interested in you someday but she treats you like an errand boy tell her that you will not let her treat you like that. If it comes down to it ignore her for a time if she doesnt come back, drop her. You deserve someone that appreciates you no matter how desperate you are.
  
  CONTINUE IN PART 2

Now this is a bit more tricky.

Theres wrong or obstructive behavior for example if you sit in a bar or club starring into your bottle or looking at women and shy away if they cath you looking then you need to realise you need to change that.

There are many reasons to frequent a bar or club but it should never be about the sole purpose of finding a girl. Sometimes you just want to have fun with your friends assuming you have any.

The trick is to be perceptive. Scan the room for a suitable girl, if she catches you looking at her dont shy away straight away try to smile before you look away if shes not visibly disgusted immediately, you should take a deep breath go over there and politely offer her a drink and ask her if she would like to talk a bit at the bar. If theres room at the table next to her you can also ask if its okay for you to join her for a bit and see if you hit it off good enough. If she doesnt really wanna talk with you then just tell her you are sorry for wasting her time, tell her to enjoy the drink and the evening and leave, you cant win them all.

If you do manage to hit it off talking to her you can always ask for her number. Just dont ask for it too fast you might also ask her if shes there regularly maybe you can meet again with her next time shes there. Its not hard to engage with a girl the hard part is jumping over your shadow after that you will see that once you talk to her its easy.

Important is also learn to be an active listener and ask her about her interests first. What you really dont wanna do it verbally spam her with your hobbys when she didnt asked for it.
If you talk to people and actively observe their behavior you can see how they react to your topics. If shes looking for an exit or if she looks bored then try changing the topic or just ask her about herself and her hobbys. Never force something if you realise shes just not compatible with you then enjoy the talk and maybe keep her as a friend. Again if theres no chemistry at all between you two then you should just accept it and move on.

Letting people in general finnish talking is a very appreciated social skill all around.

You should probably also avoid things like putting your finger in your nose and stuff like that but Ill just imagine you have enough braincells to not do that.


I get it sometimes its hard loosing weight but if you have too much on you, you should always try hard to loose it. Its generally not beeing considered healthy and having a fit body will serve you well in alot of aspects in life. The confidence you will feel for having an attractive body will also help you very much.

Im not asking anybody to train like crazy key to gaining muscles and loosing weight is consistency thats all. Just do some basic exercises for 20-30minutes a day and youw ill be just fine. It might take a while until you see progress but trust me it will get better if you just keep doing it.

Remember nothing about your physique cant be changed with a little will and hard work. You got this.


You need to heavily work on yourself but you can achieve the top of the average! And with enough initiative you will find someone for you.
You might also need help where to find or how to talk to women in certain situations dont worry you can read all that and more in chapter "Talk to women".

Bro, u average lol.

Whats to say you are really average but that also means that theres hope. You might neglect one of the following points:

• Clothing
  
• Self Care
  
• Hair
  
• Smell
  
• Confidence
  
• Behavior
  
• Physique

Ask yourself if you are lacking in one of the topics. If you cant put your finger on the problem it might help you read the chapter 2-4 where I go in dept with each point.

You probably only need to learn how to start conversations wich you can read in chapter "Talk to women"

Bro, maybe nobody likes you.

If you are a 7-8 and cant find a GF you have to consider that something about you is deterring any suitable woman.

You should learn how to behave in conversations. Let the people speak and dont just talk about you.
Not beeing an active listener might be the problem if you dont really listen to people they likely dont wanna talk to you at all.

Theres always the possibility that nobody talks to you because they think you are too good looking to be single. Or maybe they are scared to talk to you.

You need courage and confidence and just try talking to women. You can learn how to in the chapter "Talk to women"

Yeah if you are a 9 and dont manage to get a GF theres most likely something you need to change about yourself.

Im guessing you have at least some friends so only thing you can do is sit down with them and honestly ask them what they think could be annoying about you. Sometimes we just cant see everything we are doing wrong by ourselfs and theres no shame in asking others for help.

Next to the small chance that everyone is just too intimidated by your looks to talk to you theres also the possibility of you just not putting yourself out there. Meet with new people, get new hobbys or maybe ask around if your friends know somebody who would like to go out with you.

If you think the reason for you beeing single is that they are too scared to talk to you and if you are never making efford to approach any female, you might wanna read the chapter "Talk to women".

If you are a 10 theres no shortage on women. Maybe you have to look on the other side of the pond my dude.

But if you really are a 10 your problem most likely is that you cant find a quality women. Easy solution, try to meet a girl on the internet.

Maybe get a blind girl I dunno.. Im no ten so I wouldnt know heh.

Just kidding lol we all gonna die alone.